Tuesday, December 3, 2013

Overcoming Setbacks

3 December 2013

Dear Son,

Daddy’s Arion team faced off with an old nemesis Police 2 days ago in the 3rd/4th placing game in the Challenge Cup. These teams already met during the group stages and we drew each other out in a surprisingly entertaining 0-0 score line. Despite that goal-less draw, Daddy was very happy because Arion had a chance to top the group and avoid the winners of the other group. In the end, the plan was a success but we stumbled during the semi-finals against H2O.

So it was back to facing Police yet again as they too, fell to Young Women. The last time out, we drew each other but this time, there was no more hiding. Victory either belongs to them or us. Despite the game being just a ¾ placing, Daddy was very certain our opponents would want it just as bad as us.

Unfortunately, Arion fell behind due to a poorly cleared corner kick. Set piece defending seems to be one of our most glaring weaknesses, something to be addressed in time to come. We were struggling to keep ourselves afloat, let alone getting into gear with our passing. It was so bad Daddy had to throw in Shiya for Cassie, even though it was her final game. It’s amazing how we even managed to equalize much to the crowd’s delight via Chris’ thumping angular shot. We probably didn’t deserve to go into halftime 1-1 but I guess I won’t complain.

Daddy gave a fiery team talk in a bid to wake up the ideas of the girls. They weren’t doing that badly but certainly not good enough. If we had stayed the same going into the second half, defeat is for certain. I knew they were likely to come out firing in barrels but never would I have planned how the second half panned out.

We fell behind yet again via an uncharacteristic mistake from Lijing. From then on, to be honest, Daddy thought the game was over. Arion had never recovered from being a goal down and won at all, let alone twice. Daddy asked Angie to go one side and gave her a firm piece of my mind before kicking her into the action.

Much to everyone’s delight, all of Daddy’s substitutions worked. Shiya sent in a cross to Angie who pulled the trigger to equalize for us. There was pandemonium in the stands. We were back in the game and against our team’s nature, we actually found a way back from behind twice. To be honest, we were riding on our luck as Police kept coming but we barely managed to repel them sometimes.  There were times whereby Daddy just couldn’t believe the team’s luck. One by one, our players got injured. The stretchers went in twice, and could even be thrice, had Qiuyi remained on the ground. Az had to be carried out due to severe cramps and Chris received a blow to her ankle. It was a big dilemma for Daddy whether to sub Chris out, as by doing so, I will effectively end the hopes of us winning it. It was perhaps a tad too pessimistic on my thinking because for that moment, I lost faith in the rest of the players to win it. I didn’t want to risk Chris’ health as well for the sake of victory. It just wasn’t worth it.

It took Daddy awhile to decide but fortunately, Chris did me a favor. She was ok and didn’t want to give up so she saved me a big decision and trudged back gingerly onto the field.

And then it happened. It had to happen! Despite all our difficulties during the game, we were always still in it even though we were constantly on the slight backfoot. Xiaoxian was brought down by the opposing defender and a penalty was given. 90+2 minutes. When Xiaoxian fell, I thought she blew the chance. The challenge didn’t look too malicious from my angle but you know what, WE.DIDN’T.CARE.

Up stepped Chris, and as usual planted a cool and collected shot with the keeper stranded.

Everyone went wild. Daddy couldn’t believe that it was happening but there was still 2 more minutes to go and survive.

It was unbelievable how aggressive Police attacks were right from the kick off. In that 2 minutes, they’ve had an open shot that went just 2 inches wide, an unnecessary corner conceded by us, and within seconds after the corner, a direct freekick right outside the box directly through the centre. Fortunately we survived. As Mira caught the ball sweetly from the direct freekick, the whistle blew. We had made it to shore. Those 2 minutes felt like 2 minutes under water.

There was euphoria within the Arion camp. Both team A and B celebrated the victory as if we’ve won the championship. Daddy went around giving away hugs and acknowledging the contributions of all the players. These moments of sweet victory belongs to the entire Arion team and us alone. I was very touched by the team’s grit. They never gave up, and with the uncompromising reluctance to accept defeat, we snatched a win right at the death. Daddy was extremely proud of the girls. Such experience can never be bought with any amount of money in this world.

Daddy ended up with a medal, a new coach shirt as well as a very drenched shirt.

So after this long commentary of the game, what has Daddy learned?

  1. What hasn’t happened before doesn’t mean it won’t happen in the future, or at all. The team has never, NEVER recovered from a goal down to win a game but on that day, they recovered TWICE. To top it up, the team won.
  2. While we were clearly not at our very best, the undying fighting spirit provided enough, or even extra energy in the tank. That difference probably played a major role in securing a big result. So never say die or stop trying when you know you are still in for a shot at success
  3. Recovering from set backs is nice but don’t do it too often. Luck will run out at some point in time. Fighting spirit is a major contributor but never a stand-alone decider when it comes to challenges. It is always better to be in control from the word “Go” than to play catch-up.
  4. At the end of it all, Daddy received a new coach shirt specially done for me. It was the best form of recognition the team could give me. This shirt was priceless. It was for me and me alone. That kind of appreciation cannot be bought with money. Although it is not always the case, people may remember and show gratitude to us when we give them our time, love and effort. We do it not because we yearn for such appreciation but we do it because we love what we are doing and the people involved in it.
  5. Despite ending in third, it was a major victory for everyone. Beating an old nemesis is an achievement but exceeding one’s expectations within meant a lot more. It is more difficult to challenge and end up beating yourself. But when you do, the results can be amazingly beautiful.
 

In time to come, Daddy would like you to meet these gritty ladies who possessed the indomitable spirit. Perhaps they will revisit with you this fateful day in which Arion celebrated their very first major achievement with Daddy.

Love Daddy


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